10 Tangible Reasons Why Bargaining is a Green Flag in the Cycle of Grief

A lot of people don't realize that it's normal to feel like you're stuck in limbo after a loved one dies. You might feel like you can't move on, or that you're not supposed to. However, this stagnancy comes and goes with time. One prominent sign that a transition to normalcy is unfolding, is psychological arrival at the bargaining stage of grief. Bargaining signifies an emotional turning point because it’s the moment at which proactive reflection on loss intensifies.

Bargaining Shifts Focus to the Future:

Health Writer Sanjana Gupta explains that, “Bargaining is one of the stages of grief, or one of the experiences you may have if you’re grieving a loss. In this stage, you may find yourself negotiating internally, with people around you, with fate, or with a higher power, to try and mitigate or undo your loss.” Here are a few important reasons why bargaining is a positive milestone to reach during the grieving process:

1.      Bargaining nudges people away from denial. It stimulates a desire to resolve trauma, instead of evading it.

2.      Bargaining can be a sign that you're ready to start moving on from pain. It means your consciousness is tired of wallowing, and languishing.

3.      Bargaining allows you to reflect on what was most important to you about the person you lost.  It encourages a personal commemoration of people who’ve passed away.

4.      Bargaining can help you come to terms with your own mortality. It stimulates soul-searching about one’s own place in the universe.

5.      Bargaining can give you a renewed sense of purpose and meaning in life. It’s often a period when people go through a great awakening.

6.      Bargaining can help you to connect with others who have experienced loss.  This stage of grief can activate empathy.

7.      Bargaining can be a cathartic experience that helps to release personal heartache. It’s often characterized by a desire to trust fate.

8.      Bargaining can help people find closure after a loss. It leads to an acceptance of the fact that something unfortunate has happened.

9.      Bargaining can be a healing experience that allows you to move on with your life. It cultivates a fresh perspective on life after loss.

10.  Bargaining can help you appreciate life more fully. It brings to mind the fact that life is a precious gift.

 Bargaining is an instinctive response to any kind of loss, and it’s often the most consequential step taken on the road to healing. But be that as it may, bargaining is not something that transpires overnight. It takes mindfulness to truly materialize an epiphany with bargaining. Through mindful meditation, it’s possible to discover compassion for ourselves, and others, as we all work through the tragic sorrow of bereavement. 

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